How to stop being nice and getting being used?
Being nice to someone is great. We all must be kind and nice to people. But sometimes being nice makes our life very difficult. Don’t get offended by the statement above. The point is sometimes in order to be nice we sacrifice our happiness and get emotionally exhausted. And I don’t want you to feel being exhausted and broken just because you are a nice person. Sometimes we must avoid being nice in order to protect our self from being used and get emotionally manipulated. So today I am going to share tips on how to stop being a nice guy and avoid being used.
How to stop being nice and getting being used?
Tip 5: Stop imagining.
If I did not help him/her our friendship will be over. If I did not help he or she will hate me. He/she will get hurt. No one will like me. If your mind thinks like this then the first thing you must do in order to protect yourself from being nice guy and getting used is to learn to stop imagining the situations you will face if you did not help someone. This do not only destroy your mental peace but also make you do things which you do not want to do but you had to do them just because of your imagination and overthinking. Stop imagining everything will be ok and if any of the above imagination do comes true then don’t be sad because someone was forcing you to do those things which you did not wanted to do.
Tip 4: Learn to see difference whether someone really needs your help or is just pretending to need help.
Can you take my dog out for walk I am busy chatting with my gf/bf? Your answer in this situation’s must be a big “No”. Analyse the situation. See what’s the situation really is? Does the person really require your help or is just using you? If the answer is he/she is pretending to need help then you must not help him/her. These kinds of people use you for being nice and as a result you get emotionally and psychologically exhausted. You do not need such people in your life. Stop helping these people who are just using your kindness for their selfish motives.
Tip 3: Realise your choice does matter.
Another thing you must learn in order to stop being nice guy and getting used is to know your choice does matter. You have the right to say no. If you do feel you don’t want to help the person then you must say no to him/her. Without giving any explanations. You do not have to please people every time. I am not saying if person genuinely need your help and he/she asks for help then you can say no. That is being rude and you should help him/her if the problem is really big and he/she genuinely needs your help.
Tip 2: Don’t be sorry if you haven’t made any mistake.
Another tip for stop being nice guy and getting used by other is you should not be sorry if you haven’t made a mistake. There are times when people blame you for everything that went wrong just because you did not help them. You don’t have to be sorry if you haven’t made any mistake. You do not have to be sorry to those people who are using you and your kindness. Only they themselves are responsible for what has happened to them.
Tip 1: Stand up for yourself.
The #1 tip for stop being nice and getting used is to learn to stand up for yourself. Any one can give you advice, tips for stop getting used because of being nice guy. But no one can teach you how to stand up for yourself if you are being used because of being nice person. Stand up for yourself when you feel being used. It does not matter what the person might think and feel. What matters is your happiness and I can say from my experience getting used by someone because you are a nice person is the worst feeling in the world. It kills your happiness, confidence, destroys you emotionally and mentally. I don’t want this to happen to you trust me its really not a good feeling. So stand up for yourself because only you can stop other people from using you .
There you have it, few tips on how to stop being nice and getting being used.
Being nice is the greatest trait one can have. Do not stop being nice just because you were used and you have bad experiences. Learn from those mistakes and help those who really needs your help. If you are nice person be proud of yourself because you are really awesome.
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