How to identify are your friends really your friends
Nothing is more beautiful then the time we spend with our friends. Nothing can take place of the memories you have with your friends. we laugh with them., cry with them. We share our secrets with them. we tell them our dreams and desires. We all make friends at different phases of our life. But not all friends are worth having. A good friend can give you millions of beautiful moments to remember. But some friends can destroy the happiness inside you. So, today I am going to share tips on how to identify whether your friends are really your friends?
How to identify are your friends really your friends
5.They only show up when they need you.
The first thing you should keep in mind to identify whether your friends are really your friend is when they need you. If your friend only needs you when they need favours from you and rest of time you are in there ignore list then he/she is not your friends. Honestly, I had such people in my life. Being with them screwed my happiness I never felt like they were my friends all they need was favours from me and rest of time I never existed from them. Does asking for favours is wrong? No. I’m not saying if a friend asks for favours from you he/she is not your friend and you should never help them. What I want to say is if the person only needs you when he/she needs favours and rest of time act like you don’t exist in his friends list then you don’t deserve such people in your life as they are not really your friends and being with them will only destroy your happiness.
4.Gossip about you behind your back.
Hey do you know what he did last week? Do you know he/she has crush on him/her? Another thing which separates true friends from fake friends is they never gossip behind your back and in front act like they are your friends. Gossiping behind back is not acceptable. So, if you know someone who you consider as your friend is gossiping about you behind your back then he/she is not your friends. This not only destroys your happiness but also destroys your image in front of other people you may know. Does a person who do not gossips exist? Can we find him/her? The answer is No. The thing is we as human love to do gossips and if someone says he/she has never done gossips is probably lying. The take away point is don’t be friends with someone who just lives to do gossips or is continuously gossiping about you behind your back.
3.Leaves you in tough situations.
Another thing which makes your friends not really your friends is they leave you when you need them the most. We all went through tough situations in some point of our life. That’s the time when you need the support of your loved ones the most and if someone who you consider as your friends have left you in tough situation’s is not your friend. I’m not saying that if the person is stuck in bigger problem than your problem, did not show up then he /she is not your friend. I’m saying if someone leaves you alone in every tough situation and then come back when everything is normal then this a person who is definitely not your friend.
2.They make fun of you.
Hey you made fun of me you are not my friend. I’m blocking you. This is not what I am saying. We as friends make fun of our friend’s crack pranks and jokes with them and this is completely fine. But if the person who you consider as your friends jokes radar is continuously showing you in the range, then this a person who is not your friend. He/she is only insulting and trying to gain everyone’s attention through you. Honestly, I have gone through this when I was in school and is something that completely destroys your self confidence and make you feel you are useless. I don’t want this to happen with you so if your so-called friends always make fun of you throw him out of your life. You don’t deserve such people in your life.
1.Encourage you to do things you don’t want to do or you should not do.
Come on do it men/girl I’m your friend. Do it it’s fun. Knock knock did you just saw a flash back in you mind. The person who you saw in the flash back is not your friend I guarantee that. If your friends encourage you to do things which you don’t want to do or you should not do is someone who is definitely not your friend. I’m not saying if your friend is asking you to face your fear or encouraging you to improve and challenge yourself to become better is not your friend. He/she is definitely your friend. But if he/she is encouraging you to do all wrong things you don’t want to do like smoking, drinking, taking drugs, breaking laws then he/she is not your friend. Stay away from such people these are the people who are capable of landing themselves an you in serious big troubles and problems.
There you have it, tips to identify are your friends really your friends.
Friends are integral part of our life’s. We make friends in every phase of life like in school, college, in job. Yes, there can be many people who have above mentioned traits but you can’t avoid them because either due to your job or due to being in same friend’s circle. But we can surely maintain a healthy distance from. This will not only save your happiness but will also make you feel more confident about yourself.
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